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If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the two were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds his spiritual soul-mate.

And his consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. Moreover, he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period


Also, it appears Sarada Devi was only 5 years old at the time of marriage. And 5 years seems too low even according to Manusmṛti:

See the following verses from Samavarta Smriti's 1st chapter:

By seeing a maiden in menses, her mother, father and eldest brother these three go to hell. (67)

Therefore one should espouse a maiden before she has menstruated ; the marriage of an eight years old maiden is most preferrable. (68)

So, the injunction is to marry the girl before she menstruates, so 5 years does not seem to be a wrong age. According to Samvarta, 8 years is the most suited age but doing it few years earlier is ok too.

Here is a partial answer ..

If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the two were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds his spiritual soul-mate.

And his consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. Moreover, he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period

Here is a partial answer ..

If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the two were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds his spiritual soul-mate.

And his consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. Moreover, he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period


Also, it appears Sarada Devi was only 5 years old at the time of marriage. And 5 years seems too low even according to Manusmṛti:

See the following verses from Samavarta Smriti's 1st chapter:

By seeing a maiden in menses, her mother, father and eldest brother these three go to hell. (67)

Therefore one should espouse a maiden before she has menstruated ; the marriage of an eight years old maiden is most preferrable. (68)

So, the injunction is to marry the girl before she menstruates, so 5 years does not seem to be a wrong age. According to Samvarta, 8 years is the most suited age but doing it few years earlier is ok too.

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Here is a partial answer ..

If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the duotwo were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds herhis spiritual soul-mate.

ConsortAnd his consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. And Moreover, he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period

Here is a partial answer ..

If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the duo were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds her spiritual soul-mate.

Consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. And he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period

Here is a partial answer ..

If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the two were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds his spiritual soul-mate.

And his consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. Moreover, he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period

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Here is a partial answer ..

If Ramakrishna was not serious about marriage why did he agree to marry in the first place

It is only partially true or not true at all that he was not serious. In fact it was him only who told his mother and brother as to where to find the suitable bride for him, when the duo were desperately searching for a bride but without any success.

From "A short life of Sri Ramkrishna (Swami Tejasananda)":

Sri Ramakrishna was now twenty-three years of age, and he was as indifferent as ever to all worldly concerns. His mother and brother wanted to get him married so as to interest him in domestic affairs, and began to search for a suitable bride. The search was vigorously made but with no definite result. Sri Ramakrishna, finding his mother and brother in a dejected state, said to them in a semiconscious mood: ‘It is useless to try here and there. Go to Jayrambati (a village three miles to the northwest of Kamarpukur) and there you will find the bride providentially reserved for me in the house of Ram Chandra Mukhopadhyaya.’ His prophetic words proved true to the letter. A girl was found there who was five years and a few months old. But Chandra Devi agreed to accept the girl as no other bride was available, and the happy nuptial ceremony was performed without delay. After his marriage Sri Ramakrishna stayed at Kamarpukur for about a year and a half, as Chandra Devi would not allow him to leave her until he was completely cured.

So, it was not that he was not serious.

Although he might not have said that explicitly, but he must have realized that for his spiritual journey to be complete, it was necessary that he finds her spiritual soul-mate.

Consort Mother Sarada was his ideal companion in his spiritual journey. And he also wanted her to be free from any sort of desires. So, basically he wanted to get married but for reasons other than the usual reasons like creating progeny etc.

Months passed in this way, but not once did the minds of the divine couple come down to the sense-plane. This was possible, because both husband and wife had their minds attuned to the Infinite. In later days Sri Ramakrishna complimented Sarada Devi in unequivocal terms. He used to say: ‘After marriage I anxiously prayed to the Divine Mother to root out all sense of physical enjoyment from her mind. That my prayer had been granted I knew from my contact with her during this period