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After the death of a man (husband), the wife (widow) is not allowed to wear bangles, kumkum (sindhur) and is asked to wear white saree & shave her head. Is there any reference for such a practice in scriptures? And what is the purpose of such a custom?

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I could not find the exact reference of not using saree of any other colors except white. EDIT-**On the contrary I found from here that **widow women should wear yellow atleast while performing a specific Vrata. So, whether scriptures at all prescribe widows wearing white garments is debatable.

It is prescribed that ceratin Vratas are meant to be observed by women only. For example women can get the punya obtained by men by observing the Aswamedha Yagya if they dedicatedly observe the "Ananta Triteeya Vrata" in winters... The married women to wear red clothes while widows yellow hued clothes. The unmarried women(girls) should wear only white clothes.

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But shaving off heads are mentioned(pg-20) in a book called Dharma Bindu: Dharma Bindu contains the essence of all Dharma Shastras.

As a husband passes away and the widow observes the regulations of widowhood, the woman concerned shall most certainly enjoys a high level of conjugal happiness in her ensuing life. Since a widow is distinguished as being one, it is preferred that her head hair is removed forever, takes a single meal a day and refrain from a second meal that day! She should not use fragrances and not utilise flowers; every day she should perform tarpana with ‘tilodakas’ or black Tilas with water using ‘darbhas’. Those women who are widowed should consider as the diseased(deceased) husband as Vishnu himself and then her remaining life would be spent peacefully without problems and even though as of a woman of auspiciousness.

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By "Maharshi" is meant Maharshi Vyasa. Apart from these I could not find anything else. And the exact Sanskrit verses in the image are probably from the Vyasa Smriti.

  • I am considering those rules mentioned in book "Dharma bindu" are just an suggestions for widows instead of mandatory rule. It is choice of widow whether she wanna follow these rules or not. Because dharma never makes people act forcefully(against his/her wish). – Rishabh Oct 30 '17 at 5:52
  • The book actually quotes from a whole lot of Scriptures so they are rules only. But people of our age do not follow these rules of course. Actually i have seen in some old Bengali movies that widows always had their hair cut. Not exactly shaved but they sport a short hair something like what a young boy will have.@Rishabh – Rickross Nov 6 '17 at 8:44
  • Because dharma never makes people act forcefully(against his/her wish).--- Yes it will not make you do something forcefully. It s upto us to choose the path. But Dharma will definitely show us the good side and bad side of any action. @Rishabh – Rickross Nov 6 '17 at 8:46
  • Thanks for the clarification, It's just people considers dharma's guidelines as mandatory rules, not only for ourselves but for other also. They forcefully make people to follow these rules whether he/she want or not. One ex. you have shown is wearing white saree which becomes parampara and woman has to wear whether she want or not. And Sati Pratha also became mandatory earlier, when people forcefully make woman get burned with husband's body against her wish. I typed this comment so that future viewers get to know these are guidelines and one has no right to make people follow forcefully. – Rishabh Nov 6 '17 at 8:56
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    My take is this- I think the rules are there for our good only. We don't really know what happens in afterlife. If wearing white saree is good for the widows in their afterlives then let them wear . But Hinduism never forces someone. And nowadays not many follow the rules too. as regards Sati Pratha, the scriptures praise it highly but they never mention it as something mandatory. It's entirely upto the widows to decide whether they are willing or not. See my answer here: hinduism.stackexchange.com/a/15395/4732 @Rishabh – Rickross Nov 7 '17 at 5:56

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