This question contains a link to a blog which tries to prove that the position of a Hindu woman is not that respectful in the society.

One of the points it makes is that a Hindu woman can't choose a husband for herself. It has to be her father's choice always.

But, we know from Puranas and Itihasas, that for Kshatriyas at least a bride can be Swayamvara. That is, she can choose a husband of her choice among many suitors. So, its not that difficult to debunk this particular claim by that blog.

But my question is slightly different. I want to know if Vedas support the concept of a bride choosing a husband for herself or not.

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Yes the Vedas do support the concept. Given below are two relevant Mantras from the Rig Veda Samhita.

BhadrA Vadhuh Bhavati Yath SupeshA (1)

Syayam SA Mitram Banuthe Jane Chith (2) --- Rig Veda 10.27.12

DhAthA DAdhAr Prithivir DhAthA DdhAmuta Suryam (3)

DhAtAsthA Agruvei Patim DadhAthu PratikAmyam (4) --- Rig Veda 6.60.3


The bride, beautiful of form attains happy good (1), when she chooses herself a friend as her mate (2).

The Creator sustains the earth, heaven and sun (3). May He assign a husband of her choice for this lady (4).

  • then why do smritis snatch away her independence? Apr 20, 2017 at 12:14
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    Why such question should arise at the first place? Obviously every human is free to act as per his wish. Why to talk about bride? Then next question will be if groom is allowed to choose the bride or not and so on.. Apr 20, 2017 at 12:22
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    @RakeshJoshi, do you ask the same question when smritis ask 'are men allowed to eat before bathing, are brahmins allowed to fight, are brahmacharis allowed to earn money' ? These rules were laid down for men, not for women. "Obviously every human is free to act as per his wish" - says who ? If there are 10 rules for a woman, there are 100 rules for a man. Shastras delineate who should follow what based on their nature. For a woman, it is enough to serve her husband to attain same results as what her husband would attain by doing various karma/jnana/bhakti.
    – ram
    Apr 20, 2017 at 17:46
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    @ram will you only keep talking or start quoting also ? Apr 21, 2017 at 8:21
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    @ram i have already openly challenged you that i can counter all your points in a debate. Apr 21, 2017 at 8:22

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