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  • Wife at the time of husbands death wear white saree and does not put Kunkumam on her forehead.
  • She also does not participate in certain functions and seeing her is considered as a Bad Omen.
  • Husbands don't change their life style even in a small way.

QUESTION :

  • Why husbands don't change their dress code after wife's death like the women who wear white sarees after husbands' death ?
  • there is no such rule for a widow to make changes in dress etc. it was only introduced in later time .. during systems like sati. – Rakesh Joshi May 21 '17 at 6:47
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    what @RakeshJoshi says is false. the very word Sati is a name for Parvati, because she entered agni voluntarily. Only if Sati is forced it is wrong cos it's murder, but if the woman is willing, it is greatest display of chastity and brings great rewards in afterlife. Btw, there are many restrictions for men (widowers) too - they cannot do any yaga or homa or be main priest etc. only those with wife can perform these. So they were allowed to marry again in order to perform dharma. But for women, only one husband, so that even after death, she can join him in higher worlds. – ram May 21 '17 at 7:10
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    @ram I'm not sure how you are making connection between Devi Sati and Sati custom; because 1) Devi Sati didn't die because of death of her husband. 2) Devi Sati burnt herself from Yogãgni fire generated from her Chakras as I discuss here. – Tejaswee May 21 '17 at 11:50
  • There are restrictions on both the genders​. Some are visible and some are not. If the wife dies, husband can perform "kanyadaan". This is one example. According to Hinduism both men and woman are equal. I think it is the male domination that has lead to woman think that there are many rules on them compared to men. – Krishna Chaitanya May 22 '17 at 14:52
  • @ram Completely Wrong. The very word Sati which is name of the Universal Goddess means - "She who is Sat- id est, She who is of nature of Truth(Sat)" – user9392 Sep 24 '17 at 16:18
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These rule (white dress on husband's death) and many other are set by humans (males) not by God! Males always prefers himself superior than females and with this arrogance of themselves they put lots of restriction on women in earlier time like...

  • They have to burn herself with husband's body.
  • Later they change a little and impose new rule on women that they have to wear white sari after husband's death.

These rules are imposed on women in name of Parmpara or dharma But actually these rules has nothing to do with dharma. How in the world a dress code can decide whether you are a Dharmatma or not lol.

Let me give you an example through which you will come to know that these rules (parampara) doesn't make a woman Dharmatma or anything like great.

Once Shree Ram said to Lakshman that Man can't be a saint or branhman by his birth but instead he can be by his karma (Deeds that man does). Even if you are son of a Maharish that doesn't make you also a Rishi but your karma will decide what you actually are... This is the reason, Maharishi Vishwamitra is know as the great Brahma Rishi instead of a great king (Vishwamitra is a son of a king) And Bhagwan Parshuram knows as Kshatriya more than Brahman (His father Maharishi Jamdagney was a Great Maharishi). Both of their karma was apposite of their father's that's why they are not famous for the same thing, for which their father was.

Hence your karma will decide what actually you are, not your birth or your father's karma. And to be more clear, Dress code (whether white sari or saint cloth) has nothing to do with karma or dharma.

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    I am not sure which book you read while making the statement "they have to burn herself...". If your knowledge of Hinduism is limited then please read. Not even one veda says that the wife has to be burned/buried with the husband. Infact, after Abhimanyu's death, Uttara tried to perform Sati. Lord Krishna intervened and stopped her since she was carrying Parikshit during that time. This proves that forcing woman into funeral pire was not a practice and secondly​, sati was also not forced on any woman. Infact most of the widowed woman from kurukshetra did not perform Sati. – Krishna Chaitanya May 22 '17 at 14:48
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    @Anuragsingh Does our vedas says that It is mandatory for every woman to burn herself with husband's body? Just for curiosity. – Rishabh May 29 '17 at 17:25
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    @AnuragSingh You are saying vedas don't mention this pratha. That's exactly what I said in my answer that these pratha are not created by God but created by humans. God rules are thoughts are in vedas in which no such pratha is being promoted. – Rishabh May 30 '17 at 15:55
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    @Rishabh Then you mean to say- only Veda are created by God, Puraanas et cetera are man made. Veda do not even mention many Gods in Hinduism. Many spiritual rituals are not in Vedas. So how can we say- Puranas are not God created – user9392 May 30 '17 at 19:09
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    @Rishabh As you see above, Sati Pratha is glorified in our Shaastras. Even though Vedas do not mention any hint of Sati, this does not mean Sati is a man-made thing. The real reason for sati was- for a widow women at that earlier time, it was hard to live without Husband. Re-marriage did not suit the good ladies. Moreover, at that times the Husbands used to really be "Husbands", not just like today's lusty man. So it was better she burnt her. And doing this was actually a great deed by that Heroic Woman who burns herself. And She did then get thousands of years in heaven. – user9392 May 30 '17 at 19:20
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The dress code for widow female or male to avoid sex attraction before remarriage in early young age. Female attraction is powerful then males. But in North India males and females wares white dress during Hindu rituals. At lost both has to die on the earth. This is final destination.

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    Not sure if you are answering the question or want to comment on the question, if you are answering it then please do elaborate along with some references. – Just_Do_It Feb 28 '18 at 14:17

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