I want to ask this question with the help of a real life scenario. Basically, what if one wants to pursue an educational field associating with this world just for a living so that he can progress in the spiritual path to attain union with the help of a Satguru, but his father doesn't merely want him to stay in the same country and do nothing special materialistically. Instead, he wants him to live abroad and progress immensely in this world and make a name for himself. The father might allow it but will be disappointed and unhappy with him along with some other people. Lets suppose the son listens to himself and disappoints his father, will this be violating Dharma? Because it is our respective duty to keep our parents' will in consideration. Plus, it may also be bad Karma making his parents unhappy. And it is also said by many saints and rishis that if we do anything even good against our parents' will, it will be of no benefit to us. But that may not be the case when one's parents are completely wrong and there is no good in what they are thinking. But regardless of that, my consciousness tells me that fulfilling your parents' desires is the better path to choose. But I would like to hear what the scriptures have to say about this.
- You don't need India only to unite individual consciousness to the universal consciousness. Spiritual process is not based on geography.
- You had gotten such father owing to your past Karmas. Following your father's wish would be your Dharma because Dharma is nothing but any act which exhausts one's Karmas. Following your father's wish will exhaust your Karmic bondings which are result of past lives & thus pave your path to unite individual consciousness to the universal consciousness.
- Don't choose any guru until you develops razor sharp conscience to discriminate between fake & bona fide Gurus as more gurus are today fake. Till read scriptures by your own.
- Being in a world doesn't run contrary to the Spiritual process. Leaving home is not a prerequisite to unite individual consciousness to the ultimate consciousness. Only prerequisite is to become witness from enjoyer. i.e, Drishta bhaav is only prerequisite.
- You don't need ashram to meditate, you can meditate anytime & anywhere. If you are serious & developed dhāran, sitting on cozy cushion with any pose can unite you with the ultimate reality.
Conclusion: Follow your father's wish because it is not in conflict with spiritual process in any way.
- Partial reference.
- Bhagvat Geeta.
- Vijnānabhairav tantra.