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Is there any prayaschitta in the scriptures for people who have physically hurt their parents? (Please do not assume things. I am asking this for a particular individual.)

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    Haha. 'Please do not assume things' – user9392 Nov 9 '17 at 18:12
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    @AnuragSingh Yeah people love to assume things about me without rhyme or reason. – Surya Kanta Bose Chowdhury Nov 9 '17 at 18:13
  • I don't know about praschit but I heard earlier that Lord Krishna said to someone(don't remember whom) that if a person commit sin toward his parents. And their parents hasn't grant him forgiveness for that sin, then in that case even I(lord) am unable to remove that sin of him. Because parent's place is far greater than mine(Lord) also. So by this wordings of Krishna we can conclude that Until our parents don't forgive us, our all efforts of praschit will be useless. He also said that One who gives grief to their parents, they ended up by eating their own meat/flesh in hell as punishment. – Rishabh Nov 10 '17 at 5:14
  • @Rishabh Well the mother has forgiven. No father involved in the particular case. – Surya Kanta Bose Chowdhury Nov 10 '17 at 7:48
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Let me tell you a story.

Bharavi is a classical Sanskrit poet and literary genius. (My information says he was from Kerala). He was a child prodigy who was routinely praised by everyone who knew him/ knew of him. People praised him effusively to his parents. However, every time his father heard his son's praises he used to brush it off and negate it with a "oh he is just a kid; he is definitely not all that;has a long way to go" etc.

This went on for a long time. Bharavi grew extremely resentful of his father. He failed to understand why his father was casting a shadow on his genius and impeding his progress and reducing his glory. The resentment grew so much that he could not bear it any more and decided to eliminate impediments to his fame (i.e., he decided to take his father's life).

One afternoon, he lay in wait on the loft above his father's cot where the father usually came to nap after lunch. He had a big boulder with him and was going to drop it on his father's head when the old man drifted off to sleep. Soon, lunch was over and father came to lie on the cot. Mother came to him and sat on the cot and offered him tamboolam. She started talking (Bharavi was obviously listening). She said " Why do you disparage our son. How can you not see his genius when everyone else is able to. Why do you insist on hurting him and making him feel small". Father replied " Dear, how can you not know that our son's progress is a matter of pride and achievement for me. However, do you also not know that elders praising children results in shortening of their lifespans (AyuHkShINam)? I cannot bear for my son to suffer thus. All the elders praising him pains me for this reason. I want our son to have a long life and for his genius to further increase and for his fame and glory to spread much further. This is why I try to counter the negative effects of all the elders' praises."

Bharavi is listened silently and could not stop weeping. He immediately came down and fell at his father feet. He confessed his intent to kill his father and begged for his forgiveness and reparations. Father felt very sad. He went silent for a minute, opened his eyes and said to Bharavi "Go to your father-in-law's house. Live there for a whole year. Do not leave their house under any circumstances".

Bharavi took his parents' blessings and set off. He was received with great joy and respect. He was treated like a king for the first week. Gradually as they saw no signs of his leaving, they slacked off with the adoration and waiting hand-and-foot. Weeks turned to months. Not only was there no good treatment, he was put to work in the house like a member of the family and later like a servant. The situation deteriorated to such an extent that he was finally made to work in the cowshed cleaning up animal leavings inter alia.

Bharavi stoically bore all this ill-treatment, introspected, cleansed his soul of the dushkarma and during this period in the cowshed produced one of the 5 mahakaavyas in Sanskrit, viz, "kirAtArjunIyam".

Moral of the story - the person must ask the parents for suitable punishment. Bharavi's punishment broke his ego(which caused the dushkarma) to such an extent that there was no other way but to give birth to a pure, cleansed being.

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    "person must ask the parents for suitable punishment" But in case (as op said in comment) if parents did forgive him on his apologies then why they will give punishment to their son/daughter since they already forgive him/her? If child got forgiveness on apology then what question has left for asking the punishment since he/she already being forgiven by parents? – Rishabh Nov 10 '17 at 9:43
  • The particular person has already been forgiven by his mother. – Surya Kanta Bose Chowdhury Nov 10 '17 at 18:55
  • actually, the father says 'stay at your in-laws place till your mother-in-law serves you salt with her left hand' - meaning after a long while, she stopped serving him, and sat by his side and ate. – ram Nov 11 '17 at 1:30
  • @ram My source says 1 year. So... – user1195 Nov 11 '17 at 1:33
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    @SuryaKantaBoseChowdhury Bharavi's father also forgave him immediately. Bharavi insisted on going through a purificatory process so his father devised a suitable one for him. – user1195 Nov 11 '17 at 5:05

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