Just like Sita accompanied Lord Rama during "vanavasa", were it not the dharma of Urmila to accompany Lakshmana?

  • In the samvad between Urmila and Lakshamana before he left, he told urmila to take care of the their three mothers as she was the eldest Daugter-in-law left in their family,she has to bear all the duties.
    – Yogi
    Jul 28, 2014 at 14:24
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    But there are the other daughters- in- law with their husbands (Bharatha & Shatrughna) who are equally responsible to bear all duties. Jul 29, 2014 at 9:19
  • Urmila was the closest person to sita and was elder to all other Daughter-in-law's
    – Yogi
    Jul 29, 2014 at 9:33
  • It was dharma of sita also to serve the family of rama , but she broke that dharma, but Urmila followed her dharma. actually husband and family both are important , so this was conflicting scenario.
    – Friendy
    Jul 15, 2015 at 13:54

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This link gives details about Laxman's wife Urmila and it also states that she was serving Lord Ram and Laxman's parents, as the eldest Daughter-in-Law of their family after Lord Ram Laxman and Godess Sita left for the forest life (vanvasa) of 14 years.

According to Ramayana, when Lakshman was leaving for the forest with lord Rama, Urmila was ready to accompany him. But, Lakshmana hesitates and advises her to stay back to take care of her "in laws".He also states that he cannot take care of her in the forest as he will be busy serving his brother and apologizes to her. Urmila agrees and remains a devoted wife for fourteen years until her husband returned

Source Wikipedia (Urmila)

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    The Wikipedia article is simply wrong about the Ramayana mentioning any such discussion between Laskhmana and Urmilla. That's why you should be wary of relying on Wikipedia. Jul 28, 2014 at 16:10
  • Not sure where I read it.. Urmila was in sleep state most of the 14 years.
    – Narasimham
    Oct 8, 2016 at 9:43
  • @Narasimham how is it possible? and why would she ignore her mother's- in-law and sleep while her husband is away.
    – Yogi
    Oct 8, 2016 at 21:34
  • May be heard it long ago, yes,,,never believed it though.
    – Narasimham
    Oct 9, 2016 at 4:19
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    @YDS No, to use an American expression, I trust Devdutt Pattanaik as far as I can throw him. I used to read his books a lot when I was little, but then as I learnt more about Hinduism I realized how much inaccuracy and creative license there was in his works. This was further confirmed when I emailed him a few years ago, pointing out an error he made in one of his books. He emailed me back, saying that Hindu scripture was just written by Brahmins in order to control the rest of society, so it doesn't matter if he misrepresents Hindu scripture. Nov 28, 2017 at 18:38

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