According to shastra (specifically to Brahmin, no offence to others though) who should perform funeral and post death rituals of a married women whose husband in still alive (they call muttaide in Kannada language, if anyone is familiar with Kannada)? Is it her husband or the eldest son?
Few people says it should be done by husband as he is the first person to have right on his wife, few people say even eldest son can perform this rights. Is there any mention in our shastras regarding this (excuse my ignorance, if I haven't studied shastras clearly). Can anyone shed light on this?