No, God cant be realized through love towards a lover or something selfish or material thing like Greed, lust or passions, because God is the Supersoul/Spirit and is selfless/egoless but carnal love, lust or passions are physical and born from Ahamkaar/ego.
Ramakrishna Paramhans explained Maya is of two types
Ramakrishna regarded maya to be of two natures, avidya maya and vidya
maya. He explained that avidya maya represents dark forces of creation
(e.g. sensual desire, selfish actions, evil passions, greed, lust and
cruelty), which keep people on lower planes of consciousness. These
forces are responsible for human entrapment in the cycle of birth and
death, and they must be fought and vanquished. Vidya maya, on the
other hand, represents higher forces of creation (e.g. spiritual
virtues, selfless action, enlightening qualities, kindness, purity,
love, and devotion), which elevate human beings to the higher planes
If you must be mad, be it not for the things of the world. Be mad with
the love of God
God can be realized through both Bhakti/love or Gyan/intellect. As unmanifested consciousness is called Brahman/Shiva/static reality in Vedas while manifested consciousness is called Maya-Shakti/Vishnu/dynamic reality in Puranas.
Knowledge and love of God
“Even after having attained Perfect Knowledge, teachers like Nārada
retained love of God in their minds for the welfare of others.”
MASTER: “Bhakti may be likened to a woman who has access to the inner
court of a house. Jnāna can go only as far as the outer rooms.”
A DEVOTEE: “Has God a form or is He formless?”
MASTER: “God has form and, again, He is formless. Once upon a time a
sannyāsi entered the temple of Jagannath. As he looked at the holy
image he debated within himself whether God had a form or was
formless. He passed his staff from left to right to feel whether it
touched the image. The staff touched nothing. He understood that there
was no image before him; he concluded that God was formless. Next he
passed the staff from right to left. It touched the image. The
sannyāsi understood that God had form. Thus he realized that God has
form and, again, is formless.
** “But it is extremely difficult to understand this. Naturally the doubt
arises in the mind: if God is formless, how then can He have form?
Further, if He has a form, why does He have so many forms?”**
DOCTOR: “God has created all these forms in the world; therefore He
Himself has a form. Again, He has created the mind; therefore He is
formless. It is possible for God to be everything.”
Personal God and Impersonal Truth
MASTER: “These things do not become clear until one has realized God.
He assumes different forms and reveals Himself in different ways for
the sake of His devotees
Swami Vivekananda Quotes
God is very merciful to those whom He sees struggling heart and soul
for spiritual realization. But remain idle, without any struggle, and
you will see that His grace will never come.
Knowledge can only be got in one way, the way of direct experience;
there is no other way to know.
Bhakti of formless reality can be done, and is infact done in Sikhism where Brahman is called Waheguru and 10 Sikh Gurus and their followers are proof of that who are protector of Hinduism/Sanatan Dharma in North India.
Waheguru (Punjabi: ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ, translit. vāhigurū) refers to the
almighty God, the supreme soul, the creator in Sikhism.
The word vāhegurū is traditionally explained as being composed of vāhe
"wondrous", gu "darkness", and ru "light", together said to carry the
meaning - The wondrous Lord who dispells the darkness of ignorance and
bestows the light of truth, knowledge and enlightenment.
The word Vaheguru or Waheguru is also used in Sikhism as a main
mantra, called gurmantra or gur mantar.