According to Buddhism, attachment and expectations causes suffering. Even in the Vedas, it is written that maintaining relationships without expectations avoids pain. So what does it actually mean when spiritual texts preach humans to not expect and be detached? I feel there exists a lot of misinterpretation in this context. Some people might use this against another to avoid accountability for their toxic behavior or not take responsibility for the hurting caused by them - in the name that good behavior should never have been expected in the first place.
Should one not expect a good life for themselves or have dreams and goals to work for? Human beings naturally have a tendency to get attached, should they not be caring or considerate towards other souls? Should one not expect to be loved right by their partners or parents? Because having no expectations might be twisted into saying that abuse or cheating or mistreatment is acceptable. Naturally, people expect others to be respectful and kind towards them. So where to draw this line? What does those spiritual texts actually advise?
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